This week I have written about a form of bully called Gaslighting which is becoming more and more out of control in our hectic lives today.
When I first learnt about gaslighting it explained so much of what I have been going through, even to the point that I even saw myself doing it unsuspectingly to someone I know. I am now working on breaking this cycle where I don’t do to others, what others have been doing to me.
The more we educated ourselves on this matter the better we will understand the situations and the less likely we are to get angry about everythings. Even though we all know there are exceptions to the rule, and every situation is different. I am now looking to stop hating everyone and everything and working on being a better me.
Inspired by a 1938 play written by Patrick Hamilton’s called “Gas Light”. This was turned into a movie the first in 1940 and the second in 1944 starring Charles Boyer, Ingrid Bergman, Joseph Cotton, Dame May Whitty and Angela Lansbury.
Gaslighting, is a form of emotional abuse that slowly eats away at your ability to make judgments, they do this in order to control you. A Gaslighter spins their negative, harmful or destructive words and actions into their favour, deflecting the blame of their abusive deeds by pointing the finger at you. Which will cause you to doubt yourself. Gaslighting tends to eat away at you slowly until you realize that you’re a shell of the former person you were. The longer it goes on, the less likely you are to stop it. Eventually, you feel like maybe, just maybe, you really are the crazy one.
Gaslighters manipulate you to control. You will begin to doubt your own instincts, you’re likely to believe whatever you are told, which starts a vicious cycle of manipulation, denial, and more manipulation.